If you’re looking for a Thai bride online, then you need to be aware of the risks from scammers and romance scams.
Here are the key facts about dating site scammers, borne out by evidence I’ve seen, or heard reported on Internet forums:
- Scammers target both men and women.
- Scammers are present on virtually ALL dating sites. I myself have been contacted by scammers operating on some of the most popular Asian dating sites (and these are sites I recommend that you use to look for a Thai bride).
- If you’re the victim of a money related scam, then the chance of getting your money back is pretty remote.
Don’t underestimate the risks – mainstream media outlets in the UK have reported stories of men and women losing £50,000 or more through contact with people they’ve met on dating sites. That’s a lot of money to lose, especially if you’re middle aged and can’t build another nest egg.
Scammers Scammers Everywhere
So why do I recommend you use dating sites like Thai Love Links or DateInAsia, when so many people have encountered scammers on these sites?
The truth is that scammers are on ALL dating sites. Even the massive household names like Match.com and eHarmony have problems with scammers on their sites. And I know there are scammers on the free Thai dating site I run myself.
In truth the only way to avoid scammers is to use a marriage agency that introduces you to prospective Thai brides face to face. Even then, these agencies won’t protect you from crafty gold digging women and other women with other agendas. But at least they’ll shield you from potential scams such as Nigerian men posing as young Asian girls.
African Romance Scammers
You’ve probably heard stories about African romance scammers. There are whole towns in Nigeria and neighbouring countries where the major source of employment is to scam Western people through email, chat rooms and dating sites!
Dating site scams are becoming much more popular, because lonely people make excellent scam victims. Scammers also like to target middle aged people, and men seeking Thai brides generally fit this profile very well indeed.
African men doing these scams do prefer to target women. They steal a photo of a good looking American guy then post a fake profile and try to chat to lonely older women. These scams are very effective and I know women who have been targeted by these scammers.
I’ve not heard of African men pretending to be Asian women on dating sites. But one type of Asian women you MUST avoid talking to on dating sites are Asian women who claim to be living in Africa or the Middle East. 9.9 times out of 10 these will be scammers. Think your girl is different? Yeah, right.
I’ve built in a country detection tool in my own Asian Love Connections dating site. Check it out – it will show you which country a person is actually accessing a computer from. It’s by no means foolproof, but it can help you to spot the most obvious of dating site scammers.
That’s the thing about these scams. The scammers use exactly the same techniques time and time again, because people think that the person they’re talking to is DIFFERENT.
If you want a Thai wife, then either chat to one in your own country (so you can check them out in person), or find one from Thailand.
More Signs Your Thai Girl is a Scammer
African scammers are very common. But with Thai dating you’ve also got to be careful of Thai women themselves.
Thai girl scammers are VERY common on Thai dating sites.
I’m not sure what the true figures are, but listen to this. I once had an email from a middle aged American who was using a well known Asian dating site. He said he had talked to 50 women, and he reckoned 48 of them were scammers.
There are two other Thai scams you need to know about:
Just be aware that some Thai girls are actually dudes. Furthermore, they’re pretty damned convincing!
Remember that thousands of guys find a cute girl in Bangkok or Pattaya, but it’s only when they get back to their hotel that they realise they’ve found a ladyboy.
So if Thai ladyboys are convincing enough to pass for women in the flesh, then imagine how much harder it’s gonna be to spot them using one or two poor quality snapshots the member has uploaded to their dating site profile.
I’ve got nothing against ladyboys. In fact, if you like that sort of thing it’s entirely possible to find a ladyboy girlfriend on a site like Ladyboy Kisses. But what is annoying are the few ladyboys who aren’t open about their gender.
Affiliate/Chat Site Scams
Be wary of girls who want to chat to you on a different site to the one you met them on. Often they are working as affiliates for the other site, and they’ll get $20 or more if they sign you up to that site.
This other site will end up costing you more money than the site you met the girl on.
Trust me – this happened to me on Chinese Love Links (sister site of Thai Love Links). The girl wanted me to pay for a translator service on another site which charged $5 each time I sent her an email.
So please, don’t fall for this scam either!
Scams – A Summary
As far as scams go, this is all you need to remember:
The majority of romance scammers are looking for money. If you don’t send money to people you’ve met on the internet then you’re much less likely to get scammed.
Scammers have plenty of victims – there are 34,050 men on Thai Kisses for example. If you resist them then after 5-6 emails they’ll know you’re not going to fall for a scam and they’ll lose interest in you.
One huge red flag you need to be aware of is that scammers don’t like to appear on webcam. If a girl refuses to chat to you on webcam, then I’d reckon there’s a 60% chance she’s a scammer. If so, then you’ll need to proceed very carefully indeed, especially if you see other red flags. At the end of the day, there are 15,555 Thai girls on Thai Kisses alone. Really it’s in your best interest to choose some other girls to chat to.
Trust me, if a decent girl is interested in you, then she’ll make it pretty obvious. And for what it’s worth none of the wonderful Asian women I’ve met online have ever expected me to send them money.
So enjoy your Asian dating experience, and don’t let a simple romance scam spoil your experience or your entire future.
If you’ve had problems with scammers, or with finding a dating site that isn’t totally infested with scammers then leave your comments below (anonymously if you like).